Taking Ownership of Your Life: Stop Drifting and Start Driving
Imagine that you are sitting in the passenger seat of a fast-moving car. The scenery is blurring past you; career milestones, relationship changes, personal dreams, and you are terrified of where your car is going. You grip the dashboard, bracing for a crash, wishing the car would turn left instead of right. Finally, you look […]
Does Changing How You Speak Change Who You Are?
While talking with a group of college athletes about identity and authenticity, I was sharing how it is important to know who you are and to show up in every space as your true self instead of pretending to be someone else or being who you think others want you to be. Know your gifts, […]
“Purpose Anxiety?” Ways to Avoid It
I was reading the AP News recently and came across an article called: Why The Search For Meaning Can Cause ‘Purpose Anxiety,’ And What To Do About It. I had never heard of the term before, but according to the author of this article, Alina Tugend, “The term ‘purpose anxiety’ appears to have been coined […]
5 Ways Owning Your Identity Can Mitigate Regret
I’ve made a lot of decisions over the last 50 something years of my life. Thankfully, most of those were pretty good ones. However, there are some things I’ve chosen to do that have left me with regret. It’s impossible for me to go back and change those choices, the outcomes, and the consequences of […]
In a One-sided Relationship? The Issue Might Be You.
For a long time I thought the word “sucker” must have been scribbled across my forehead, because I kept finding myself in relationships where people were taking advantage of me. They were using me for their own gain while leaving me with little to nothing in return, and sometimes these were individuals I considered friends. […]
Rethink Using Your Work To Define Your Identity
What motivates you to work? Why do you get out of bed every morning? Everyone has their reasons, but there is a common motivator that comes at the top of the list for many. Yet, this same incentive that drives us each day can also be the very thing that impacts our joy, whether we […]
Leverage Your Identity To Create Margin
2024 was a pretty intense year for me. By “intense’ I mean OUT. OF. CONTROL. It was a year of “too much.” I had too much travel, too many projects, and too many shiny propositions that ended up being major distractions from my carefully curated goals. I found myself saying “yes” to too many good […]
How Community Builds Resilience
According to the American Psychological Association, resilience is “the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats, or significant sources of stress.” There are a number of steps we can take to build resilience, but in this article, I’d like to focus on the building block of Community. Building Resilience Early […]
A Surprising Obstacle Keeping You From Your Purpose
When you think about the need to forgive someone, what names and faces come to mind for you?
Quiet the Noise
When we live a distracted, noisy life, we tend to forgo intentionality and give our most valuable attention to the urgent matters at hand.
Who Am I?
That innate need to belong, seemed to tug harder on me at times than those antics I loved, so I was willing to compromise the things I loved…
How can I find fulfillment in life?
Is fulfillment truly possible to achieve in any circumstance?